Tips on dealing with loneliness
Going to university or entering higher education is a significant life change for lots of people. And for many, it can bring about feelings of loneliness or isolation.
These feelings are completely normal, as research has shown that young people aged 16 to 34 are one of the most at-risk groups for experiencing loneliness.
Your college or university may offer wellbeing or mental health support. Student services or the students’ union (or other student body) can give you information about what’s available – make sure you check the university or college website too.
If you or someone you know is feeling lonely at university, the following organisations can also help.
Student Space
Student Space is a mental health and wellbeing platform designed to bridge any gaps in support for students.
It also has a specific section hosting resources focusing on friendships and social life.
The Mental Health Foundation
The Mental Health Foundation works to prevent mental health problems across the UK.
Students can learn more in the student guide to loneliness, and read about top tips and advice by accessing the Behind the Books resources.
There is also a range of mental health advice and information on the website.
Tips on dealing with loneliness
If you are feeling lonely, or know someone else who is, there are plenty of simple, affordable actions you can take.
1. Keep in touch with people
Regular chats with friends and family can help to combat loneliness. Just talking to someone in that moment can really help when you feel alone – and help the person you contact.
Try to do this regularly, as most of us love hearing from others. Being more sociable might also make it easier to reach out when you notice any signs of loneliness.
Messaging old friends and colleagues, or creating a group chat on apps like WhatsApp or Messenger, are good ways to feel more connected.
2. Join a group
Being part of a group or club is a great way to connect with and meet people.
Look for groups to join in person or online that focus on things you like or activities you would like to try.
If you’re in a group, remember to always welcome others and involve them, as it can really help anyone who might be shy or lack confidence when meeting new people.
3. Do things you enjoy
Filling your time doing things you like might be a way to stop you from focusing on your loneliness, which can improve your wellbeing.
Spending time outdoors in green spaces, exercise or sport, reading, and listening to podcasts and radio shows are great ways to boost your mood and occupy your mind.
4. Share your feelings
Talking more openly about how loneliness affects you can really help. Hearing a familiar voice or seeing a friendly face can also make us feel less isolated.
Try not to compare yourself with others. Some people only share the good things happening to them, especially on social media, so comparing yourself to others can make you feel lonelier.
Plus, we can never be sure of what someone else is going through.
5. Connect with others or volunteer to help
Think about people you know who might be feeling lonely and try to connect with them. This might also make you feel less lonely too.
If you pass someone you recognise, try smiling and saying hello. And if you start chatting, could you swap phone numbers or suggest joining or setting up a local group together?
Getting to know people in your area can help with social isolation, especially when moving somewhere new.
Arranging to meet new friends in a safe, public place for a walk outside, or inviting someone out for a cup of tea or coffee can be a great way to help lift each other out of loneliness.
It might be harder for people who have been lonely for a while to be open to connecting, so give them time to respond to your friendly contact.
Volunteering is also a great way to meet people, and seeing the benefits of your actions can really help to boost your mental wellbeing.
Find out about volunteer roles here.
6. Invite someone along to activities near you
There are many free and low-cost activities you can take part in throughout the year.
Invite someone to come along to explore hundreds of free and affordable events happening across the country.
See what’s on in your local area, from affordable theatre tickets and free exhibitions to fun family activities at your local library.
Post authored by:
Better Health – Every Mind Matters
NHS
